Oct 16

职场20年回顾/女性职场生存

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@潘旦丹

2015/10/16:职场20年回顾/女性职场生存

Time: 2015/10/16, 12pm-1:30pm

Topics:

– Survival tips as a female in the male dominated tech industry.

– Reflection on 20 years as a career woman;

– Insights to pass on;

分享总结

Figure out your priorities in life:

和自己的关系/Relationship with yourself
Accept who you are;
Love what you do; enjoy the moment, not what you can get from it.
Know what you want; live the life you want; Do what you like, not what your parents/husband/boss wants you to do;
Build a healthy body/figure; spend time/money on yourself and enjoy life;
If you are not happy with where you are right now, find ways to change it.

与爱人的关系/Relationship with your significant other
Mutual appreciation, respect, support and admiration.
Spending time with each other in the morning & in the evening.
Should not sacrifice the love relationship with your significant other for money/kids/career/others.

与孩子的关系/Relationship with kids
Spending quality time with your kids is more important than doing things for him/her, or buying things for him/her.
Say “I love you” to them. Make them feel secure.
Let them become independent early on and learn to care for themselves.

与父母的关系/Relationship with parents
Love your parents when you still can;
Buy stuff for them that they enjoy but might not ask for.

与朋友的关系/Relationship with friends
Friends can support you through challenging times;
Nourish the friendship you have with friends.

与同事的关系/Relationship with coworkers
Show that you care. Show compassion.

Takeaway Message:
做自己喜欢做的事情,享受过程,不要太看重结果。
投入事业的时间肯定要影响你和家庭在一起的时间,最后一切都是自己的选择。

Q& A:

问题1:选择安静的做事还是常去跟老板说说自己的麻烦
Let people know what you are working on;
Regular status update to your boss/people involved in project;
Don’t just complain, show that you are proactively solving problems.

问题2:工作中受到委屈怎么办
Find ways (friends/hobby) to release the negative emotion;
Bring it up in reviews;
Switch to a new team;

问题3:您常被抓去救火,有哪些优点让您得以脱颖而出呢
Execution capability;
Leadership;
Customer knowledge;
Integrity; Always tell the truth; Never make up anything;
Sincerity; Show compassion; Authenticity;
Sometimes you need to be proactive: ask for it.

问题4:How to communicate with engineers who might be ten times more technical than you?
Push yourself to learn
Do not afraid to ask questions; Ask questions that are relevant.
Be alert/always pay attention.

问题5:How to write good emails?
Start with short executive summary
Back up with evidence in bullet points

问题6:职位低,找人要东西多次无回音
Make sure it’s truly important;
Make sure it’s the right person to talk to;
Phone call to track them down;
Make it easy for the person to take action, especially if they are busy/senior
Follow up with meetings if needed.

问题7:如何领导别人/How to lead?
Build relationship; Show you care; Show your compassion;
Give credit to people in your team; appraise their work;

问题8:Tips for female in 90% male environment
Junior level: not as bad; Senior level: significant gender gap;
Perceived weakness:not technical enough; too emotional; too aggressive; some are unconscious bias.
Speak out more; present more; ask questions more; get involved more. Practice as much as possible.

问题9:每天工作为什么?
Ask yourself, do you love what you do?
Money is good, but you should not work just for the money.
不要目的性太强;不要功利心太重;
Care about people around you and enjoy the process.

问题10:同事之间:如有男同事要帮你present你做的东西
Say no; Try to present your own stuff;Tell him that what you have done and why you should present.
Don’t be emotional; words can be strong but keep a calm tone.
Yoga might help manage emotion

问题11:工作要8小时才能做好,老板只给3小时
Explain pros & cons;
Rushing and saving little time might cause much more significant negative results down the road.

问题11:如何提高写作/演讲技能
Toastmasters;
Community college $100 writing class;
Effective communication skills means the ability to talk, and to write.

问题12:How to build relationship with coworkers?
Hang out more with coworkers (e.g., take team out to lunch; organize baby shower for team members);
Sometimes small talk /chitchat before meetings helps too. Talk about things that you have in common (kids, etc.).

问题13:为什么中国职场女性常被评价为aggressive? 是因为言语应用不恰当还是事实的确如此?
Might have something to do with the way we communicate (too straightforward; missing words that soften the tone; etc).
Sometimes it’s unconscious bias. Men are perceived as assertive while women are perceived as aggressive by saying the same thing.
Being aggressive might not necessarily be a bad thing.

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